Better Questions = Better Life

“Be a good listener,” Dale Carnegie emphasized in 1936 classic How to Win Friends & Influence People.

We need to understand how important good questioning is. End fewer sentences as a statement and more with a question mark to deepen a connection. Don’t overvalue your knowledge.

Asking more questions unlocks learning that will lead you to a richer life with deeper connection and understanding of the world around you.

Not all questions are created equal-

Having a road map of what you want to know or make the person feel is crucial. Then leave the follow-ups open-ended to allow the person to expand further into the direction they want.

Maximize your curiosity. Limit your opinion.

Understand what you want to know about their emotional response to an event.

Understand what you want to know about their journey in reaching an idea, decision, or action.

Understand if you want to know about their “doing” or their “thinking” or their “feeling” and ask accordingly.

Most of all, don’t try to dominate or stear the conversation. You may be the one asking the questions but they are the golden goose of answers. Don’t slaughter the goose..I mean the conversation.

To ask for a deeper relationship is to ask deeper questions.

Get that straight and you will have a new network.